When it comes to dating, ladies, a man will think one of three ways about us depending on how smooth the first date went: It could be 1.) “Man, I need to call her back”. 2.) “I’m never meeting girls on facebook again”, or 3.) (confused face) “………..Who?”. Whether a good impression, bad impression or no impression at all, the first date is the one time he’ll listen to you!So be careful what you talk about on the date. Some things seem obvious with common sense, but you’d be surprised how many people bring up over the top, out of line, pushy topics that scare people away. Maybe it’s nerves or something? So lets have a little pep talk. Don’t make any of these your first impression:
1.) Expecting a five star meal.
-Ladies, we have to take the blame for this. You know what we think ” I want to see how much he values me”. Honestly, it’s a FIRST DATE. Would you want to spend 35 dollars on a salad for someone you don’t even know if you’ll see again? If you expect high quality, five star treatment on the first date, he’ll be expecting a particular “thank you” at the end of the date (umkaaay). It’s like you want the TLC before he even knows you, why wouldn’t he expect that from you? Be cool with some place casual unless he offers otherwise. If he has any decency, he’ll know not to take you somewhere TOO casual (i.e. Micky D’s).
2.) 21 questions? “????” “???????” “?????????”
-You are not a CSI agent, and he is not being held for questioning. Stop it. Making a guy feel uncomfortable by asking too many questions gives him permission to never call you again. Let the conversation flow. Plus you want him to get to know you, too.
3.) Bad mouthing ex’s
-We can all turn a conversation about an ex into an Oprah show and tell you everything about how “he did me wrong”. Save that for your homegirls, and spare your date. That screams “I’m a Victim!” and shows that you take no responsibility for what went wrong no matter what the circumstances were. That’s unattractive. If your date were to ask, a simple “We were just going in different directions” or “We just couldn’t work out our differences” will work. Seems vague, but really, that’s all the information he needs at that point.
4.) Sex talk
-If you looking for a hook up buddy, then this may not be a problem. Thing is he’ll be interested in you, but only because at this point you basically guaranteed him the goods by the end of the date. Your mind, dreams, goals, wont mean nada to him because now all he can focus on is getting you undressed. Of course the guy is sexually attracted to you, that’s one of the reasons why he asked you on the date, but don’t talk sex unless those are your plans at the end of the date.
5.)Desire for marriage and children
-You know this person from a few awkward text messages and you already having him think about a wife and kids? I recommend you do that if you’re desperately trying to get out of ever seeing him again because after talking like that, you won’t. There’s plenty of time to talk about a husband and kids later on. Much, much later on.
6.) Mentioning debt/Money in General
– First thing he’s going to think (whether he has money or not) is ‘she looking for a superman’. Everything you say after that will translate into “I wanna be saaaved” whether that may be true or not. Never ever ever ever never never ever mention money. It sends every type of message except the right one.
These are the main “no-no’s” that will leave you as a sour memory and the horror story topic he’ll tell his homeboys about (they gossip too). Plus who wants to miss out on a potentially good relationship because you choked up and couldn’t find any other way to start your sentence off with except “If we were married…….”. Yeah, me neither. If you didn’t know before now you know, so go out there and get ’em. Ready? BREAK!