The Girls Are Talking

What is it about negative gossip that intrigues people? Most commonly women. Even if a woman is happy at her job, has her own place, car, money, good hair, good man, and good friends, is it so hard to be happy for another woman with the same things going for her? It seems some women think she has to be the only one out of all her friends doing well, otherwise she doesn’t feel as good about it.

One thing that I find nearly impossible is seeing a woman happy for another woman that has a great relationship.

I noticed when I have something good to say about a guy I’m dating, there’s acknowledgment on what I say, but not a whole lot. That conversation ends in maybe two minutes. Oh, but let me tell her about how crazy I found out he was. Yea, we’ll be talking about that all night. She’ll enjoy that conversation. Why is that?

I have only a few friends (and I like it that way), but I know who I can share certain things with. I try to just stick to light topics with them and ignore the negative comments because some people just don’t know how to be happy for others. Don’t share all your business with every person unless you’re ready to hear every opinion.

If someone never has anything good to say about your relationships don’t let them in the loop. Trouble is promised at some point along the way in a relationship, don’t add any more by letting gloomy, jealous people fill your ears with junk. It’s not always what they say, it’s mostly in the vibe they give off. Keep the rain away from your parade.

If you let them rant and rave on, most likely they will, and most importantly make your own decisions. You are the one that has to live with that decision when it’s all said and done. If you’re in need of some beneficial advise, talk to someone with life experience; someone who actually has a successful relationship. You may have that one friend with a good head on their shoulders, but remember YOU REAP THE OUTCOME.

Just a note:

If you can find more negative in things around you than positive, it’s not that your’e surrounded by negative things, you just look at the glass half empty. This is how you can tell you may be too negative:

  • Complaining. There is never a time where complaining is justified. Don’t think so? Name one.
  • Mind is always turned towards noticing flaws in everything (he has a car but it’s not new enough, his job doesn’t pay enough, his apartment is too, this, too that, too something)
  • Small things ruin your day. You’re day is ruined because he didn’t send you a “good morning” text? Don’t get mad at things you can’t control.
  • If someone suggests something you’re really quick to point out why it won’t work or why it’s a bad idea .
  • If you see a flaw in something, you just have to speak up and say something about it. You feel a little rush, like you’re winning points, when you do this.
  • “But” is a big part of your vocabulary. “Yea he’s nice, but..” I know, but…” “I see what you’re saying, but…”
  • You expect/anticipate bad things happening. When something bad happens you have a  “I knew this would happen” attitude.
  • You bond well with other negative people or try to get others to feel bad with you. (Misery loves company)
  • Anything could be going well, but you can always find any reason why it won’t work out.
  • You think positive people are naive and are impressed too easily.
  • You’re in denial about everything you just read.
Most people do these things without even knowing it so identify who they are for yourself and keep them in a certain distance.

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